I’ve been a fan of the Montessori education method for quite some time (actually, if you count my own experience as a Montessori preschooler, I’ve been a fan since I was a three year old!) When our son was a baby and toddler, I incorporated some Montessori principles and activities into our home. Now that our son is enrolled in Montessori preschool, I’ve been a lot more immersed in the method and seen how it is shaping his development.
Recently, I had the opportunity to observe his classroom for a couple of hours, and it was fascinating watching the children work on so many different lessons. I’ve also seen Montessori principles at work during the many playground discussions that occur during afternoon pickup.

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Six lessons our Montessori experience has taught me about parenting a preschooler:
1. Children need child-sized tools

So often, we assume that children are not capable of tasks. Hand a three year old a long-handled broom, and he will likely find it hard to sweep the floor in an effective way. That’s because he’ll be knocking the handle into the walls. Give a child a large pitcher filled to the top with water, and she may spill a lot of water or drop it when trying to pour the water into a glass.
What I’ve seen in the Montessori classroom is that equipment that is designed for a young child’s size makes it possible for them to do tasks like these well. Equipment like this can be ordered from sites like Montessori Services, but you can also find many appropriate items at the thrift store or dollar stores.
2. Children can take care of their environment (and they want to!)

In the Montessori classroom, children are responsible for practical tasks like setting the table for lunch, cleaning the table after the meal, wiping up their own spills, or sweeping the stairs. Teachers introduce a very particular way for the child to do a task once that child is ready. For example, my three year old knows the proper way to set the table. However, he’s not yet ready for the lesson on washing the table because it involves more steps than he can remember at this point.
One of the keys for getting children to care for their environment (i.e. clean up) is to have the tools they will need easily available to them. On my observation day, I saw a child knock over a small vase of flowers on her work table. She didn’t tell the teacher. She just went to the shelf to get a spill tray (which held a sponge, bucket, and drying cloth) and took care of everything herself. One related lesson that I already knew, but which has been reinforced, is that children are capable of using real materials like glass and ceramic.
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3. Adults are present to guide, not control

4. Presenting just a few items at a time keeps children from being overwhelmed
5. Children need to talk things out themselves

6. Scarcity of resources can prompt children to work things out








2 responses to “Six Lessons About Parenting I’ve Learned From My Child’s Montessori School”
Dear Rebekah,
At last I got resources which are relevant for children.
Your resources are good. I live in Kenya. I support children on volunteer basis for over ten years.
I am a trained child psychologist. I just have passion to help children.
Thank you,
Everlyne
I’m so glad they are helpful Everlyne!